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You Should Avoid Reading This...
If you tuned in to my last post, then you know our theme is attachment styles! But if you missed it and want to read about my confession to being a member of the Anxious Attachment Club, and what that means, click here. This week, we’re moving on to discuss the avoidant attachment style.
How Do You Show Up in Relationships?
Have you ever heard of attachment styles? When I first learned about the concept, my supervisor recommended the well-researched, popular book, Attached. Geez, I had never been so called out by a book before. 😳
Unexpected Healing In My Hometown
Did you know there's a National Measure Your Feet Day? And a National Pick Your Nose Day?! So weird, right? While it seems like everything under the sun has a “National Day,” Saturday's title was particularly special to me. It was National Podcast Day. ☺️
Want To Know My Favorite Question To Ask?
The other day, when talking to a friend, he asked a simple, yet crucial question. “What’s one thing you do to help people validate their feelings?” We had been talking about how people often invalidate their own feelings with phrases like, “I know I shouldn’t be feeling this way.” “It’s really not that big of a deal.” “I shouldn't be crying."
Be The One Who Rescues You
Five months ago I changed the background of my phone to the picture above. Since then, I’ve been asked many times, "who's that?" As most people know I don’t have children. The picture is of me. I am about three or four years old and this is my Inner Child.
What Does Your Inner Teenager Need to Hear?
Do you ever catch yourself rolling your eyes at something? Or rebelling against perceived authority, just because you don’t like being told what to do. If so, you might be you’re feeling your Inner Teenager. 😎
What’s Gut Health Got To Do With It?
If you were around to witness the mini breakdown I shared in my last email, then you get how much I needed some real, healing change after my long summer. Something to help boost my energy, motivation, and mood. Taking a few rest days wasn’t cutting it, so I started the Purium Ten-Day Cleanse to reset my gut health.
What Does Your “Crash” Look Like?
I don’t know know about you, but so far, my summer has been PACKED! First, I spent two weeks in Flordia with my partner's family, then five weeks in Colorado co-facilitating an amazing life changing retreat for young adults (see my previous email for details), then I jetted back to Sacramento where I jumped into co-facilitating ANOTHER retreat at the Authentic Leadership Center.
Where’s Your Happy Place?
When I think of my happy place, I imagine my childhood camp in Colorado that I attended for eight years. I picture a bright blue sky setting a backdrop to perfectly puffy clouds, looking so close you can touch them. I see snow covered peaks and rushing rivers. I feel SAFE and COMFORTABLE here.
What They Don’t Teach in School
Did you know that one in three college students reports feeling severe levels of anxiety and/or depression? Big sigh. I know, it's not most the most UPLIFTING news in the world. But I bring this up for two reasons…
For the Love of Community
One year ago, I wrote to this community for the first time. And if you've been here since the beginning, you know how much has happened this year! You've really witnessed A LOT. Every two weeks I have connected with you all, sharing parts of my journey, my emotions, my thoughts, low points, and excitements.
Some of the Best Advice I've Ever Received
It was my seventh grade year and my English teacher assigned my first BIG essay. I had a vague idea where I wanted to go with it, but I was STUCK. I didn’t know how to start, what to say, or how to spell most words. And I especially didn't know how to move past the paralysis. Then, a family friend shared some key advice that I've used ever since.
Have You Taken Your M.E.D.S.
As we move through Mental Health Awareness Month, I thought I'd share one of my favorite tools for checking in around my HEALTH. And by health, I mean all the "healths," physical health, mental health, spiritual health, sexual health, emotional health. Because let's face it, they ALL impact one another and they all make up HEALTH. Our culture often thinks of physical health from the neck down and mental health from the neck up. But isn't your head apart of your body?
What's Up With Your Nervous System?
Do you ever feel in awe of the human body? I sure do! In the blink of an eye, if it senses danger, it increases your heart rate, oxygen intake, and body temperature. It instantly produces chemicals, hormones, tenses muscles, decreases your metabolism, AND shuts off part of your brain. It does this to prepare to fight an attacker, run away, or freeze until it's safe. Just by thinking a simple thought the body automatically fires off those messages.
Why I Don't Do Self-Care, and Why You Shouldn't Either.
If you google the term self-care, you'll receive over 4 billion responses. It seems to be viewed as the cure-all for almost every ailment. But if you ask anyone who is exhausted, burned out, anxious or depressed if they’ve tried adding more self-care to their life, it might take everything in their power to NOT smack you.
How Do You Make Hard Choices?
One year ago my life changed dramatically. I said yes to the adventure of a lifetime; living on the road, in a 22 foot long Sprinter van with my partner. And this weekend, on the one year anniversary of this journey, things changed. We made a new choice. One that is scary, unsure and empowering.
Don't Let Fear Overshadow Your Dreams
Last year, I was working with a coach who asked me, “What would you do if your memoir was already published?” And I knew the answer immediately!
What is Weird, Free and Releases Pent-up Emotions?
Let me ask… what is weird, free, and releases pent up emotions? The answer: BREATHWORK! But what exactly is breathwork?? Before I explain, let me see if you can relate to some of the challenges I've experienced over the years.
Why I couldn't Meditation for Years
I get a lot of questions about meditation from my clients. And it makes sense. Ask anyone these days if they think meditation is good for them and most of the time you'll hear a resounding YES. But, ask if they meditate and you'll hear all sorts of reasons why they don't.
New Year, New You? I Call BS
Has anyone else felt like this year is off to a SLOW start? 🙋🏻♀️ Maybe it's that we started the year with Mars in Retrograde, or maybe it was the INSANE weather we faced here in Sacramento. Or maybe that's just what I like to tell myself. 😂