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What’s Your Risky Risk?
This week, I did something risky. I loaded up my trusty Toyota Corolla with everything I own and started a solo journey across the United States.
My car was so packed there was barely space for me, let alone anyone else!
Right now, I'm in Colorado, having a great time catching up with old friends.
Soon, I'll be crossing Kansas, Missouri, Tennessee, and eventually reaching my destination: Asheville, North Carolina – my new home.
Roundabouts: Setbacks Along the Healing Journey
The other day, I was chatting with a friend who just returned from a trip to France. She said, “I think I’m now in love with roundabouts.”
She explained how seamless her driving experience was with less traffic and fewer stops at traffic lights. She found that, when done correctly, roundabouts can be really helpful and not as scary as we Americans tend to think.
I mean, how many times have you come to one and thought, “What if I get stuck and can’t get out?” I know I have!
The more I thought about this, the more I saw parallels between roundabouts and our own lives, especially on our healing journey.
Time to Step Over the Line
Have you ever had one of those moments where you think, "Did I really just do that?"
Maybe you blurted out something you shouldn't have, or acted in a way that wasn't exactly your finest hour.
Suddenly, that moment is playing on loop in your head, and you can't help but imagine all the ways you could have handled it better.
Ugh, it's like a bad movie that won't stop re-running!
Let Go of the Stinky Fish!
Last week, I was having a conversation with a client about—wait for it—feelings!
Shocking, right?
But it wasn't just about feelings; it was about the meaning we give them.
Here's some of what we discussed:
If I'm angry, it means I'm being mean.
If I'm sad, it means I did something wrong.
If I'm anxious, it means I shouldn't do it.
If I miss them, it means I made a mistake.
Sound familiar? We all do this.
Ever Wonder Who’s Really Driving Your Life?
For a moment, imagine someone really important to you.
You’d do pretty much anything for them, right? You worry about their health, help them when they need it - the whole nine yards.
That’s because you know them – their history, quirks, and all the little things that make them, them.
But what about the person living a few blocks away?
I’m sure you'd wish them the best, but it's not like you're going to lose sleep over their bad day. It’s not cold-hearted; it’s just how things are.
We're designed to care more about those we're close to.
Was My Inner Critic Really Ok with This?
You may have noticed the void last week – no regularly scheduled biweekly email. I can just picture you, waiting with bated breath, only to find... nothing.
Zip. Nada. Zilch.
But here’s the thing, it wasn’t an oversight or some crisis that kept me away. I just didn't do it.
Yep, you read that right.
Now, before you think I’ve given up or that I’m taking our connection lightly, let me explain.
Ever Wonder How Many Feelings You Experience in 1 day?
Did you know that the average person experiences over 400 emotions a day? While that might sound surprising, what's even more shocking is that we lack a system that teaches people about their emotions effectively.
A Box, A Mask, and Some Linen
Have you ever seen a mummy in real life? Not like a zombie mummy, but one that's in a museum. 🧟
I remember visiting The British Museum a few years back and seeing a few huge sarcophagi. They were awesome, in the true sense of the word.
Seeing them got me thinking – we’re all just mummies.
Advice from a Shamanic Healer
When I was 25, I went through a rough break up. After knowing each other for only two months, he and I made the brilliant decision to travel for three months together in Southeast Asia. There were only two ways that trip was going to end. Coming home, I was heartbroken.
Congratulations! You’re a movie star!
I’m currently reading the book, Sacred Selling, by Melina Abbott, a marketing and sales consultant who teaches spiritually-minded entrepreneurs how to align their businesses with their values. Yup, that’s me folks.
WFT is Astrology?
Back in 2014 (which I can’t believe was 10 years ago!) I enrolled in my first Introduction to Astrology course. If that sentence makes you roll your eyes and want to stop reading, I get it. Lots of people don’t believe in astrology, and that’s okay! I’m just not one of those people.
Anyone Want a Redo?
When you were a kid, did you ever find yourself wanting a redo? “I lost that game, I want a redo!” "I got a bad score on a test, I want a redo!"I missed the shot, I want a redo!”
As we get older, however, the Inner Critic might chime in and say, “You shouldn’t need a redo, it should be perfect the first time.”
You’re Stronger Than That
It was Thursday evening and I arrived at 9Rounds, the kickboxing gym I go to. It had been a day. The kind of day where you want to throw the covers over your head and not come out for a long, long time. It had been a day after a long, few weeks.
Do You Know How to Emotionally Surf?
Last week I was talking to a client about surfing. Not literal surfing, but emotional surfing. Let me explain.
Would You Date You?
As we wrap up this series of emails on attachment styles, I find myself at a bit of a loss. Secure attachment?! What is that?! 😳 😂It seems to be a unicorn. A mystical creature that we're not sure ever existed…Ok, I’m kidding! Sort of.
You Should Avoid Reading This...
If you tuned in to my last post, then you know our theme is attachment styles! But if you missed it and want to read about my confession to being a member of the Anxious Attachment Club, and what that means, click here. This week, we’re moving on to discuss the avoidant attachment style.
How Do You Show Up in Relationships?
Have you ever heard of attachment styles? When I first learned about the concept, my supervisor recommended the well-researched, popular book, Attached. Geez, I had never been so called out by a book before. 😳
Unexpected Healing In My Hometown
Did you know there's a National Measure Your Feet Day? And a National Pick Your Nose Day?! So weird, right? While it seems like everything under the sun has a “National Day,” Saturday's title was particularly special to me. It was National Podcast Day. ☺️
Want To Know My Favorite Question To Ask?
The other day, when talking to a friend, he asked a simple, yet crucial question. “What’s one thing you do to help people validate their feelings?” We had been talking about how people often invalidate their own feelings with phrases like, “I know I shouldn’t be feeling this way.” “It’s really not that big of a deal.” “I shouldn't be crying."
Be The One Who Rescues You
Five months ago I changed the background of my phone to the picture above. Since then, I’ve been asked many times, "who's that?" As most people know I don’t have children. The picture is of me. I am about three or four years old and this is my Inner Child.