What a Powerful Week (and it’s only Thursday!)

Wow, the last 3 days have been incredible.

For the first time ever, a group of survivors and parents organized a conference to address the far too common, and yet still taboo topic of sibling sexual trauma/abuse, and I was there. 

There was such power in these rooms.

People who’ve done the work to live the life they want and rise above the life that was handed to them.

Regardless of what you’ve been through, none of us asked for the hard stuff.

None of us ask for betrayal, hurt and pain.

But, none of us get out of this human experience unscathed either.

Inevitably, we all experience it, on some level, at some time.

So, in my world, and in the work I do, yes, your story is important AND my question is always, what are you doing about it now?

Because that’s where you're really in control. 

And one of the areas of your life that you can control is whether or not you forgive.

Now, in most survivor and therapeutic spaces the word forgiveness is almost forbidden.

For those you who’ve read my book, you know that I went on a mission to forgive my abuser by my 30th birthday – not for him, but for me – and I did it. 

It was hands-down the best decision I've ever made. 

And when I tell that to a room full of parents, survivors and advocates, it gets some push back.

Some people think the reason I did it is because I’m Christian (I’m not). 

Some think it’s because I wanted a relationship with him (I don’t). 

Some think it was me saying what happened was okay (absolutely not).

I forgave 100% for me.

So I could release and let go of what wasn’t serving me anymore.

I was sick and tired (mostly tired) of being angry and I was ready to let down my sword. 

I didn’t want to carry around the resentment and anger that was still in my body.

After 10 years on a healing journey I'd worked too hard to build a life I wanted and I was ready to enjoy it!

And I couldn’t do that while still holding on to the abuse I’d experienced.

So, I’m really excited because I’ve been working on something new when it comes to forgiveness. 

Some of you even got a sneak peak of it at the conference. 😉

It's a protocol that actually walks you through letting go of old emotions, accepting the past and reclaiming your power.

Next week I’ll tell you more about that, but for now, I want you to have this forgiveness meditation that I created.

It's designed to support you in forgiving yourself and others.

Listen as many times as you'd like until the chains of the past start to shake free.

Thanks for being here and I’ll see you next week.