A Powerful Session with Mary

Yesterday, Mary from Washington showed up to our IG Live and I'm so glad she did.

She's been carrying a painful dynamic with her two sons for a long time. 

Hurt feelings. Invalidation. That aching sense of not being seen or understood by the people you love most.

Sound familiar?

On some level, we've all been there. The details change, but the feelings don't.

We talked about how maddening it is when you can't make someone understand you. Can't make them see you. Can't control what they feel or what they do.

So. Annoying. 🙄

And here's the good news and the bad news about all that:

The bad news? You're the only person you can control.

The good news? You're the only person you can control. 🙏

That's not a small thing. That's everything.

From there, Mary and I worked through an acceptance exercise and then Ho'oponopono — a Hawaiian forgiveness practice — and what came up was powerful, although not too surprising.

Spoiler alert: it was fear.

Fear of being a bad mom. Fear that her sons' choices were a direct reflection of her parenting. And the deepest fear of all… that she'd become her own abusive mother.

But in just a few minutes, she found real relief. 

Because she realized that the fear wasn't true. It wasn't even close to the truth. 

It was her nervous system doing what nervous systems do – trying to protect her from repeating her own painful past.

Her Inner Child had been running the show. And once she saw that, she could finally breathe. 

If you want to get in on some of this acceptance and forgiveness action, you can watch the replay below and follow along as I walk her through the exercises. 

🌀 Acceptance Exercise: 7:25

🙏 Forgiveness Exercise: 14:00

🗣️ Brinn's personal reflection: 23:19