How to Romantisize Your Life

A few years ago, while working with a social media and book coach, she said something interesting.

She told me “romanticize your life.” ❤️

At first, I thought she meant, wine and dine myself and simply laughed it off as another cliche. 

But over time this idea has morphed and changed and today during my meditation, it came to me again.

What if we all fell in love with our lives?

What if we could all see how truly epic our lives really are? 🔥

Sometimes it feels like we have to wait for either one of two things to happen. 

1) something or someone to make life epic 

2) someone to recognize how epic your life is and once they recognize it then you'll feel it.

But I’m starting to realize that’s not how it works.

I'm learning that I have to fall in love with my life first, before anything can make my life more full of love.

Like, can you appreciate how cool you actually are?

I’m not talking about wearing trending clothes, I’m talking about actual cool factors. 😎

Zoom out for a second and look at the bigger picture of who you are in this crazy world of ours. 

Look at your interests, how your brain thinks through things, and how you care for others, think about your sense of humor. 

Think about how much you’ve been through and have overcome in your life.

Can you recognize how awesome of a human being you are and what incredible things you’ve contributed to/done/accomplished/experienced/felt/witnessed/seen. 

I’ve been working a lot on my book lately (for those that don’t know I’m due to publish a memoir by the end of this year) and I’m realizing there are so many wonderful memories in my life I just seem to forget about.

But, like most people, I spend so much more time thinking about things I’d rather forget! 

Why is that? 😩

Well, there’s a part of the brain that is trying to help me not repeat things that’ve hurt me, so it thinks if I focus on them, that will be preventative. 

 This is how our Inner Critic and Inner Child operate.

 But, that’s actually holding us back!

In fact, we have a part of our brain called the Reticular Activating System (RAS for short) which takes things that are familiar and brings them to the forefront.

Like when you buy a new car and suddenly all you see are cars like yours. 

Yes, they’ve always been there but now you’re just noticing them because of your RAS.

And it’s the same thing with your life. 

When you focus on how great the little things are– like when you show up to an appointment on time after doing a million things beforehand because you planned ahead– that’s worthy of appreciation! 🙏

And actually that’s one of the most satisfying feelings for me. 

But if I get caught up in the stress and worry of if I'll get there on time, or wanting someone else to acknowledge that I made it happen, then I’ll miss that satisfying feeling. 

It’s like my Inner Child saying “Look at me! I did it! I made it happen!”

And then, bringing my Nurturing Adult in and saying “Wow! You did do it. Good job!” 👍

Which feels a lot better than a Critic listing off all the ways I could have done better.

So, as you start your day today, think about this: how can I fall in love a little more with my life today?

And then make a list of all the ways you’re doing well in your life. 

Then overtime, start to see what your RAS notices. You just might be in for the most loving surprise of your life. 💜